There is NO Such Thing as A Wrong Decision

"Wrong" decisions are a myth. Here is why. Think about this for a moment...If you make a decision and it turns out it feels like it wasn't the best or highest choice for you, making it and experiencing the feelings you experience will give you contrast. What do I mean by contrast? It means that you you will see more clearly what you don’t want against what you do want. By making a decision and experiencing negative emotions from choosing that decision, you just got a big dose of clarity on what you hate. That's a good thing!

When you make a decision, don't focus on whether it was the right decision or the wrong decision. That's what most people do. Nothing can be learned from you choice if you beat yourself up on it. Rather, stop and look AT your decision for a moment and focus on how you feel about the decision. It's not the choice that matters, it's how you feelabout the choice that will guide and help you to move towards making decisions that get you closer to your goal/objective/chief aim in life. Pausing to recognize how you feel before, during and after a decision puts you in touch with your “Internal Guidance System.” Some call it their “gut feeling.” Your Internal Guidance System will never steer your wrong (although your ego will work very hard to make you doubt yourself.)

So, you made a “wrong” decision. What you've really done is you've made a decision that made you feel a negative feeling. That's your Internal Guidance System stepping in to let you know that the decision you made won't get you to your goal. You feel like crap. You’re not happy. You might even be downright angry. Anger is not to be feared. It’s to be used. How? Negative emotions such as anger can be harnessed.

Every emotion has a vibration, or frequency of it's own. When you feel angry, you can harness that energy, that vibration by immediately thinking about what you want - while you’re angry. This is a key technique that most wealthy people understand and practice. You'll soon shift your energy into a positive one and you used the negative vibration of anger, which is very strong, to send out a message to the Universe of what you want.

Don't stew in the negative energy, thinking about the "thing" that made you angry in the first place. That will only cause you to attract more of what you don't want. This is why you use this technique of focusing on what you want while you're angry - to avoid attracting more of what you don't want. 

Think about a project or a situation where everything that could go wrong did but you were so determined to succeed that the angrier you got, the harder you pushed. That's how you can use negative energy. I did in 2004 when I was the Director of the Volunteer Program for the NFLHouston Super Bowl XXXVIII (38). Everything that could go wrong did go wrong. I cried, I got mad, scared, angry, you name it. I felt every negative emotion in the book during that one-year contract.

But the angrier I got, the harder I pushed. The more determined I was. When I got angry, I would see in my mind success at the end. When I was unsure of myself, I would close my eyes and focus on a perfect Volunteer Program. Every time I got angry, I channeled my energy into what I wanted. Did I make decisions that appeared to be “wrong” ones? Sure I did! But I learned what I didn’t want which gave me clarity on what I did want and I kept going.

The NFL reps told me shortly after the Super Bowl that the 2004 Super Bowl Volunteer Program was one of the most successful Volunteer Programs in the history of the Super Bowl [at that time]. 7500 volunteers and 100% show rate for every volunteer shift. Anger fueled me and "wrong" decisions helped guide me towards knowing what I didn’t want so I could have clarity on what I did want.

There are 3 decisions or choices you have that you can make at a given time. They are:

1. Do it.
2. Don’t do it.
3. Wait.

If you don’t have clarity, if your “gut” says you’re aren’t sure, just wait! Don’t fall into the mental trap of, “But if I don’t take action now, I’m missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime.” Trust me, there will be other “great opportunities." It all comes down to how you feel about something.

Here is the point: You can’t make a “wrong” decision, so stop stressing out when it’s time to choose. Whatever decision you make, it’s either going to move you closer to what you want or it’s going to give you clarity on what you don’t want. When you experience what you don’t want, it’s like your Internal Guidance System saying, “You’re not lined up yet. Keep trying out different choices.”

I realize this is an “out there” concept to many. But, just like our muscles and body need exercise and conditioning, so does our mind. The mind craves knowledge. With knowledge comes discomfort because as you learn new concepts, your paradigm of life will shift and you’ll be outside your thinking-comfort-zone – until you’re not. 

Don’t be so concerned about thinking like you have to always make the “right” choice. Focus more on making a decision, then observe how you feel about that decision and use it to gain clarity on what you want if the decision didn't feel good after you made it. 

Like what you read? You could learn more of this as a member of www.ginevolve.com. I am a member, Level III. If you'd like to explore what we learn, download "Your Wish Is Your Command" from my DropBox folder, bit.ly/yourwishr. May you never be the same. 

About the Author

Raegan Hill resides in Houston, TX and has been in the recruiting industry for over a decade and 15 years in corporate marketing. Her specialization is in the placement of traditional and digital marketing professionals for corporations and marketing agencies. Her client base ranges from start-ups to Fortune 4. She’s also a career and job strategy coach and works with professionals who want to build an effective job search strategy. Raegan is a Contributing Author for "Hired! Paths to Employment in the Social Media Era", by Jeff Sheehan and Alfred M. Smith. To learn more about Raegan, go to linkedin.com/in/raeganhill or www.raeganhill.net.